When you find yourself seeking the approval of others, whether it be the approval, or recognition, of a parent, a spouse, a friend, an employer, a coworker etc., realize that it is a false desire. The true desire that is hidden beneath this false desire of approval is the true desire to be one with God. It is God's love we ultimately all seek on a deeper level of our being. We, as humans, have perverted this true desire into seeking recognition and approval in this world. So, when you catch yourself doing, saying, thinking or being something that is in line with seeking approval from that which is outside of God remind yourself that it is untrue, remind yourself that it is God you seek, and then realize that you do not need to do anything in order to receive God's unconditional love. He adores you, for he sees you as you truly are.